Achieving climax at the same time as your partner depends on feeling comfortable communicating clearly how you feel during sex. You will be able to talk to your partner about what feels good, what turns you on, what to keep doing and what to stop doing.
You may want to put your partner’s needs before your own by climaxing at the same time as your partner, holding back your own climax until they reach theirs. Or your partner may have to hold back for you. Both you and your partner need to know what turns you on and how to achieve orgasm individually before you can work on sharing an orgasm together.
Taking any pressure off yourself or your partner, enjoying the moment, and focusing on your sexual hot spots are all ways to help increase your chances of experiencing a simultaneous climax. And while you don’t have to have intercourse to climax at the same time, we’ve got some tips to help you out if you want to go that route.
- Don’t focus on climaxing all at once.
Take the pressure of achieving climax all at once. The more you focus on it, the more likely you will feel that your sexual encounter has failed if it doesn’t happen. Remember that having a fulfilling sexual experience has little to do with simultaneous orgasm. Instead focus on being in the moment and enjoying the time of intimacy with your partner. Think of simultaneous climax as a bonus, not the ultimate goal of sex.
- Know what is best for your partner.
Having an orgasm at the same time is similar to what your partner experiences. Take the time to find out what turns your partner on and what they enjoy. It helps reduce your stress to reach climax. You may find that focusing on your partner is just as much a turn-on for you as it is for them, while also helping you climax.
- Synchronize with your partner.
When you tune into your partner’s needs, you’ll find that you naturally begin to synchronize with them. Take turns stimulating and pleasuring each other, but if you find yourself getting too close to climax and your partner isn’t there yet, slow yourself down. This is actually easier to do than hasten the climax. In the meantime, listen to your partner’s breathing, which is a sign of their sexual arousal. Being in sync can bring you both closer to climax simultaneously.
Lubrication increases women’s sexual arousal and helps them climax faster. Using lube can sometimes speed up natural lubrication, as it makes stimulation more pleasurable while reducing any dryness. You can use lube to focus exclusively on the moon. Lubricant can be used before intercourse to stimulate women inside (using fingers or a vibrator) and outside of the clitoris, making orgasm during sex even easier.
Chandranadi is the only organ in women’s body that exists only for pleasure. Knowing that it makes sense to focus on it to help bring about simultaneous climaxes. In fact, researchers have found that the moon, not the spot inside the vagina, is a woman’s G-spot. It is more sensitive to vibration than other parts of the body. So whether it’s a vibrator, tongue or fingers, focusing on the moon is key to climax.
If you take longer than your partner to climax, focus on stimulating yourself verbally or manually for 10 to 15 minutes before engaging in action.