Even if you and your partner break up a few months before V-Day, it’s still fresh if it’s a meaningful relationship. And knowing that a romantic holiday is approaching fills you with a distinct sense of dread.
What doesn’t happen, definitely doesn’t hold up and so going for a breakup might be an option.
When breaking up with your May Sux, especially if you’re doing it before Valentine’s Day, try to do it gracefully.
Here are some great tips for you:
- Analyze what you need
Before you break up with your partner, make sure you really want to end the relationship.
If you have doubts and concerns about your relationship, it is important to share them with your partner before you break up.
The trauma of this type of external breakup can be very traumatic and very difficult to overcome. Therefore, a well-thought-out breakup should not be a rash decision made in the middle of an argument or a card you play in an attempt to control your partner.
- Deliver the news face to face
If you feel safe seeing your soon-to-be ex in person, you owe it to your partner to have the breakup conversation face-to-face.
Yes, it’s uncomfortable and harder than breaking up over the phone but doing so shows that you care about them and that you care for the relationship.
Don’t beat around the bush or hint at the fact that you want to break up without actually saying it. A less direct approach may seem kind in the moment – but trust, it isn’t. Just telling the truth is the best thing to do.
- Focus on the relationship
Address the breakup as a problem in the relationship rather than any flaws in your partner.
Couples break up for a myriad of reasons, but eventually, the relationship runs its course, and relationships always take two, so accept your part in what didn’t work out.
There’s no surefire way to predict how your partner will react to a breakup, but you should be prepared for a range of reactions.
Express empathy as you would before a breakup—through a hug or other gestures of affection when preparing and acknowledging when it’s denied.